Making the decision to move a loved one into a nursing home is not easy. It is hard to see your parent or grandparent deteriorate. It is equally difficult to be unable to meet their needs. None of us like admitting we need help. Especially when we need help caring for a loved one. Moving your loved one into a nursing home is hard.
You may feel guilty. You may be uncomfortable at visits and feel stressed about whether they’re properly cared for. Your loved one may be angry with you. They may be having a hard time dealing with the transition. You both need time. Allow yourself to have bad days and forgive yourself for not being able to do it all.
The transition into a nursing home may be easier when you know what to expect.
Getting Prepared for the Move
Planning in advance for moving day can be helpful. You should be ready with either having family on hand or available by phone. Keeping the mood as positive as possible also helps. Help your loved one make the new home as comfortable and personal as possible.
Some may feel more comfortable with the move if they have visited the facility before move in day. If your loved one is willing and able to be part of the selection process, involve them. Take them to the facility to meet the staff and see where they will be living.
Discuss the move with the staff. They may have suggestions on how to make the transition easier. They can also tell you items to bring. You may also be able to schedule activities for your loved one after the move.
Creating a Comfortable Environment
You can help your loved one feel more comfortable by bringing the comforts of home to the nursing home. Try to recreate the mood and ambiance of home. You can:
- Crafts - Bring things that your loved one has made.
- Collectibles – Bring some knick-knacks from home. However, don’t bring anything of real value. Valuable items may disappear in a nursing home.
- Family photos
- Decorate for the holidays
- Bring colorful artwork
- Add fresh flowers
- Reading materials – Bring books, newspapers, and magazines.
- Provide them with a telephone
- Put a television in their room
Transitioning into a nursing home can be difficult for everyone involved. Knowing what to expect and bringing the comforts of home can help make it easier.